3 Reasons Why Self Esteem is Your Biggest Obstacle
1. If you don’t believe in yourself, who else will?
Self esteem is one of those topics that isn’t talked about enough. Most individuals fail not because their idea didn’t work out, but simply because they didn’t believe they could carry out an action before they even starting it. Can you image how silly it sounds for someone to buy something from you when you don’t even believe in the product or yourself as a representative. Convince yourself before you convince others.
2. Don’t beat yourself at your own game
This really ties in to our points above. The idea is to give yourself the opportunity to win. Discrediting your idea before it starts doesn’t even allow your boss or customer have the opportunity to shut it down. You have already lost before you have begun. Dianne Sawyer once said, “Whatever you want in life, other people are going to want it too. Believe in yourself enough to accept the idea that you have an equal right to it.”
3. Fear is just a feeling
I’ll reference the quote in the previous point as the basis of my argument. Every single person in this country has an equal right to success in anything. There is always this pre-conceived notion that there are privileged individuals who have a better chance of success. I cannot say this is true or not, but what I can say is that the CEO of General Mills and the student at a local community college put their pants on the same way every day. I cannot stress the importance of not fearing your peers. You can & you will succeed as long as you believe it, have the will to work for it and never quit.
The most important thing to know before tackling anxiety is to understand what anxiety is (not just understand the feeling). Anxiety is a form of fear when there is no immediate threat to ones life. Essentially, it is fear of the UNKNOWN. The first step in battling your anxiety is to understand what causes it. I challenge you to carry a notebook for one week. Each time you start to feel anxious, analyze what your day looks like and get a feel of the most challenging topics/subjects/tasks of the day – document it. By the end of the week, you should have a decent amount of notes to reference back on. Where are the trends? What do you see that repeats itself? For example, my anxiety triggers are: getting a call from an unknown number, receiving a challenging email I just don’t have the answer to, and sometimes leading up to an event where I will have to speak publicly. As you can see, when you take a step back and analyze my triggers, it is fear of the unknown! Who is calling me and why? How can I answer this email honestly with the correct information? What happens if I forget the topics I am speaking about?
2. Flip the Script
Flip the script means change your perspective. This is extremely difficult for people due to the need to over-analyze a situation, so I am going to make it really simple. Anxiety is pessimistic, excitement is optimistic. While you may feel fearful about what comes next, try shifting your perspective to a form of excitement. Who is calling me? The president! How can I answer this email honestly with the correct information? Ask for help and give your honest answer – life rolls on! What happens if I forget the topics I am speaking about? I get the opportunity to speak because I have earned it, and I provide valuable information even if I miss a few small points. Life is about opportunities and being excited about those opportunities.
3. Shift Your Energy
Eliminate dwell time in your life. Try turning your TV off and do things you love, preferably active things. I really don’t have much to add other than live the life you want to live. Enjoy your life in a way that you want to enjoy it. Do the things you want to, because YOU CAN.
This post was written by Sean Gibbons. Sean is a visionary set out to challenge the thoughts of today’s generations. You can follow him at:
I’ve come to a realization in my life how often I say the word no. Those two letters can end any conversation within seconds. Have you ever stepped back and actually realized the opportunities or experiences you have missed out on by blurting out that “oh-so-easy” word.
As humans evolve along with technology, we adapt to our lives changing pace and are constantly looking for a quicker way to do things. Faster ways to communicate, to search the internet, to get to your destination faster. Conversations have become shorter, words are abbreviated (LOL, OMG).
So, why do I say no & why did I stop?
I am guilty of the statements above. I am a man of convenience! I love my easy button!
In the past month I have done some trials with myself to see how my life would evolve if I simply stopped saying “NO.”
I’ve noticed a change for the better. I am more willing to take risks, more daring. I am willing to challenge myself, to be spontaneous and explore life’s many opportunities. To travel with a minimal agenda, explore just out of curiosity.
How can you do this?
Start by recognizing when you say “NO” and replace it with the following:
“I’m not against it.”
“Worth a try.”
I challenge everyone starting today to try this and share your stories of how your life evolves.
This post was written by Sean Gibbons. Sean is a young professional set out to challenge the thoughts of todays’ generations. You can follow him at:
You have one chance
one life in this body
until the next one starts again
that means this minute is gone
so ask yourself, did it matter?
did that minute make a difference in your life?
will it be one to remember forever?
is it a minute spent with the people who matter?
doing the things that really matter?
this is your one last chance
your last chance to make this minute count
and when it does count make the next one count too
and the one after that, and after that, and after that
better yet make your whole damn life count
because this life is all you have to live
until the next one begins
then make that one count too
Written on a runners’ high
By Aaron Aslin
I subscribe to the brilliant blog posts of Mr. Seth Godin, instigator of doing work that matters in the world. His books focus on pushing you to do work and “ship” as he calls it. As an entrepreneur and visionary I often find myself faced with multiple projects with equal opportunity for growth. Doing multiple projects well is nearly, if not totally, impossible, so I decided to ask Mr. Godin what he does in this situation.
“When in doubt, look for the fear.”
This reminds me of the wisdom from Marriane Williamson when she said, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most.”
Don’t minimize fear, embrace it, and welcome it as your north star for finding purpose in your life. The challenge is now clear: instead of running from fear, do you have the courage to embrace it?
This post was written by Aaron Aslin. Aaron is an entrepreneur, philosopher, and blogger. He uses his background in marketing to bring people to ideas that inspire, motivate, and create purpose in their lives. You can follow him @aaronaslin and facebook.com/aaronaslin