3 Reasons Why Self Esteem is Your Biggest Obstacle
1. If you don’t believe in yourself, who else will?
Self esteem is one of those topics that isn’t talked about enough. Most individuals fail not because their idea didn’t work out, but simply because they didn’t believe they could carry out an action before they even starting it. Can you image how silly it sounds for someone to buy something from you when you don’t even believe in the product or yourself as a representative. Convince yourself before you convince others.
2. Don’t beat yourself at your own game
This really ties in to our points above. The idea is to give yourself the opportunity to win. Discrediting your idea before it starts doesn’t even allow your boss or customer have the opportunity to shut it down. You have already lost before you have begun. Dianne Sawyer once said, “Whatever you want in life, other people are going to want it too. Believe in yourself enough to accept the idea that you have an equal right to it.”
3. Fear is just a feeling
I’ll reference the quote in the previous point as the basis of my argument. Every single person in this country has an equal right to success in anything. There is always this pre-conceived notion that there are privileged individuals who have a better chance of success. I cannot say this is true or not, but what I can say is that the CEO of General Mills and the student at a local community college put their pants on the same way every day. I cannot stress the importance of not fearing your peers. You can & you will succeed as long as you believe it, have the will to work for it and never quit.
BELIEVE YOU CAN. TRUST IN YOURSELF. WORK HARD.
This post was written by Sean Gibbons.
3 Easy Steps to Kick Your Stress to the Curb
1. Clear Your Mind
Not everything we do qualifies as a life-or-death experience. Let’s be honest, some things can just wait. Typically people believe that stress is born due to having too much work, or perhaps something going wrong or potentially wrong. Now, I can’t stop any of these things and typically neither can you. So how can we reduce the pain that this causes. The first is to write down your total work load down daily. Each morning I spend 5-10 minutes creating a check list of all the action items I have due. This could be overwhelming, but I do not stop until I get everything on my piece of paper. This exercise allows you to remove the clutter of thought from your brain which prohibits the process that makes you feel overwhelmed.
2. Organize & Prioritize
Your check list is written and your mind is clear. Your next step is to prioritize your action items by most important to least important. The items that get worked on first WILL NOT be the items that have the closest due date. You will focus specifically first on the items that will create the greatest impact to what you are doing. If you are in sales like I am, I focused on my largest accounts first, then move down my list.
When starting a task, place 100 percent of your focus solely on that activity until it is completed. By now, you are probably asking how the heck this will reduce stress. You are probably asking why multi-tasking isn’t more effective. This exercise is not a diaper for your stress, it is a solution to kick stress to the curb. By religiously following this exercise you will start to realize the return on your investments. You will learn not to sweat the small stuff and life will move on. You will spend less time “fixing” problems, and more time executing plans.
Get out there and win.
3 Steps to Beating Anxiety
1. Identify the Triggers
The most important thing to know before tackling anxiety is to understand what anxiety is (not just understand the feeling). Anxiety is a form of fear when there is no immediate threat to ones life. Essentially, it is fear of the UNKNOWN. The first step in battling your anxiety is to understand what causes it. I challenge you to carry a notebook for one week. Each time you start to feel anxious, analyze what your day looks like and get a feel of the most challenging topics/subjects/tasks of the day – document it. By the end of the week, you should have a decent amount of notes to reference back on. Where are the trends? What do you see that repeats itself? For example, my anxiety triggers are: getting a call from an unknown number, receiving a challenging email I just don’t have the answer to, and sometimes leading up to an event where I will have to speak publicly. As you can see, when you take a step back and analyze my triggers, it is fear of the unknown! Who is calling me and why? How can I answer this email honestly with the correct information? What happens if I forget the topics I am speaking about?
2. Flip the Script
Flip the script means change your perspective. This is extremely difficult for people due to the need to over-analyze a situation, so I am going to make it really simple. Anxiety is pessimistic, excitement is optimistic. While you may feel fearful about what comes next, try shifting your perspective to a form of excitement. Who is calling me? The president! How can I answer this email honestly with the correct information? Ask for help and give your honest answer – life rolls on! What happens if I forget the topics I am speaking about? I get the opportunity to speak because I have earned it, and I provide valuable information even if I miss a few small points. Life is about opportunities and being excited about those opportunities.
3. Shift Your Energy
Eliminate dwell time in your life. Try turning your TV off and do things you love, preferably active things. I really don’t have much to add other than live the life you want to live. Enjoy your life in a way that you want to enjoy it. Do the things you want to, because YOU CAN.
This post was written by Sean Gibbons. Sean is a visionary set out to challenge the thoughts of today’s generations. You can follow him at:
Sing Leaders, Sing
We find leaders all around us
And follow those who stand up and sing
Who belt loudly the music from their soul
They look for no reassurance since in this moment the words need to be sung
It’s not voted on by a committee or agreed to be the right thing to do
For by the time the committee decides, and everyone aligns, the song is through
The time has come for fewer people in the chorus and more people singing for what needs to be done
This post was written by Aaron Aslin. Aaron is a philosopher, blogger, and entrepreneur. He uses his background in marketing to bring people to ideas that inspire, motivate, and create purpose in their lives. You can connect with him on twitter @aaronaslin and facebook.com/aaronaslin
5 Easy Steps to a Happy Life
1. Compliment a Stranger
Make someone else feel good about themselves. Pick something small, and share your positive thoughts with a stranger daily.
Easily one of the most underrated actions someone can do. Not only does a smile improve your mood, but enlightens those around you. Share this with your friends, family & co-workers.
3. Say Hello
Why is it that you have to keep to yourself? Ask a stranger about their day. After all, you never know who you might meet.
4. Don’t Judge
It is so easy to judge someone, we are all guilty of it. Realize that not everyone is going to have a great day. Understand this and do your best to stay positive for yourself and others.
5. Stop Saying No
No is such a short and powerful word. Two letters that can end any opportunity in seconds. I’ll expand on this further in our next post.
This post was written by Sean Gibbons. Sean is a young professional set out to challenge the thoughts of todays’ generations. You can follow him at: