3 Reasons Why Self Esteem is Your Biggest Obstacle

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3 Reasons Why Self Esteem is Your Biggest Obstacle

1. If you don’t believe in yourself, who else will?

Self esteem is one of those topics that isn’t talked about enough. Most individuals fail not because their idea didn’t work out, but simply because they didn’t believe they could carry out an action before they even starting it. Can you image how silly it sounds for someone to buy something from you when you don’t even believe in the product or yourself as a representative. Convince yourself before you convince others.

2.  Don’t beat yourself at your own game

This really ties in to our points above. The idea is to give yourself the opportunity to win. Discrediting your idea before it starts doesn’t even allow your boss or customer have the opportunity to shut it down. You have already lost before you have begun.  Dianne Sawyer once said, “Whatever you want in life, other people are going to want it too. Believe in yourself enough to accept the idea that you have an equal right to it.”

3. Fear is just a feeling

I’ll reference the quote in the previous point as the basis of my argument. Every single person in this country has an equal right to success in anything. There is always this pre-conceived notion that there are privileged individuals who have a better chance of success. I cannot say this is true or not, but what I can say is that the CEO of General Mills and the student at a local community college put their pants on the same way every day. I cannot stress the importance of not fearing your peers. You can & you will succeed as long as you believe it, have the will to work for it and never quit.

BELIEVE YOU CAN. TRUST IN YOURSELF. WORK HARD.

This post was written by Sean Gibbons.

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3 Easy Steps to Kick Your Stress to the Curb

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3 Easy Steps to Kick Your Stress to the Curb

1. Clear Your Mind

Not everything we do qualifies as a life-or-death experience. Let’s be honest, some things can just wait. Typically people believe that stress is born due to having too much work, or perhaps something going wrong or potentially wrong. Now, I can’t stop any of these things and typically neither can you. So how can we reduce the pain that this causes. The first is to write down your total work load down daily. Each morning I spend 5-10 minutes creating a check list of all the action items I have due. This could be overwhelming, but I do not stop until I get everything on my piece of paper. This exercise allows you to remove the clutter of thought from your brain which prohibits the process that makes you feel overwhelmed.

2. Organize & Prioritize

Your check list is written and your mind is clear. Your next step is to prioritize your action items by most important to least important. The items that get worked on first WILL NOT be the items that have the closest due date. You will focus specifically first on the items that will create the greatest impact to what you are doing. If you are in sales like I am, I focused on my largest accounts first, then move down my list.

3. Execute

When starting a task, place 100 percent of your focus solely on that activity until it is completed. By now, you are probably asking how the heck this will reduce stress. You are probably asking why multi-tasking isn’t more effective. This exercise is not a diaper for your stress, it is a solution to kick stress to the curb. By religiously following this exercise you will start to realize the return on your investments. You will learn not to sweat the small stuff and life will move on. You will spend less time “fixing” problems, and more time executing plans.

Get out there and win.

Sean Gibbons

 

3 Steps to Beating Anxiety

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3 Steps to Beating Anxiety

1. Identify the Triggers

The most important thing to know before tackling anxiety is to understand what anxiety is (not just understand the feeling). Anxiety is a form of fear when there is no immediate threat to ones life. Essentially, it is fear of the UNKNOWN. The first step in battling your anxiety is to understand what causes it. I challenge you to carry a notebook for one week. Each time you start to feel anxious, analyze what your day looks like and get a feel of the most challenging topics/subjects/tasks of the day – document it. By the end of the week, you should have a decent amount of notes to reference back on. Where are the trends? What do you see that repeats itself? For example, my anxiety triggers are: getting a call from an unknown number, receiving a challenging email I just don’t have the answer to, and sometimes leading up to an event where I will have to speak publicly. As you can see, when you take a step back and analyze my triggers, it is fear of the unknown! Who is calling me and why? How can I answer this email honestly with the correct information? What happens if I forget the topics I am speaking about?

2. Flip the Script

Flip the script means change your perspective. This is extremely difficult for people due to the need to over-analyze a situation, so I am going to make it really simple. Anxiety is pessimistic, excitement is optimistic. While you may feel fearful about what comes next, try shifting your perspective to a form of excitement. Who is calling me? The president! How can I answer this email honestly with the correct information? Ask for help and give your honest answer – life rolls on! What happens if I forget the topics I am speaking about? I get the opportunity to speak because I have earned it, and I provide valuable information even if I miss a few small points. Life is about opportunities and being excited about those opportunities.

3. Shift Your Energy

Eliminate dwell time in your life. Try turning your TV off and do things you love, preferably active things. I really don’t have much to add other than live the life you want to live. Enjoy your life in a way that you want to enjoy it. Do the things you want to, because YOU CAN.

This post was written by Sean Gibbons. Sean is a visionary set out to challenge the thoughts of today’s generations. You can follow him at:

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10 Ways to Start Caring a Whole Awful Lot

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10 Ways to Start Caring a Whole Awful Lot

 

1. Take a Stance

Take a stance on an issue you are passionate about. Hopefully the outcome will result in making the world a better, happier, more peaceful place.

2. Read

Knowledge is power. Learn the truth, the history, and the arguments both for and against. Be able to argue the other side better then they can and your own arguments will be that much stronger.

3. Listen

Listen to experts at events, on TED, at schools, universities, and community classes. Listen to your friends. Listen to their arguments and seek to understand their perspective.

4. Talk

Share your knowledge with your friends, family, and colleagues. Get up on your soapbox and let your stance be heard.

5. Write

Put your thoughts on paper. Start a blog. Submit a column for your paper. Writing is the currency of ideas and allows them to be internalized by the readers when they are ready to receive them.

6. Create

Create videos, memes, pictures, sand art, sculptures and display it in public.

7. Share

Put your ideas out there for the world to see, hear, and feel. Use your art to instigate conversations and become the impetus for change.

8. Build

Build a community of people who support you. Start with a single believer and let your passion and creations inspire others to join your cause.

9. Commit

Give yourself a goal, a timeline, or a date to reach and commit to getting there. When that date arrives celebrate how far you have come and give yourself a new date to reach.

10. Persevere

Tell yourself right now that making the world a better place will be hard. But when it gets hard remind yourself: unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.

This post was written by Aaron Aslin. Aaron is an entrepreneur, amateur philosopher, and blogger. He uses his background in marketing to bring people to ideas that inspire, motivate, and create purpose in their lives. You can follow him @aaronaslin and facebook.com/aaronaslin

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