Self doubt. Everyone has experienced this at one point or another. Job interviews, first dates, college exams, trying a new recipe, working out, staying healthy, the list could continue forever. These are just a few things that cause people to doubt themselves EVERY SINGLE DAY. But why?
Why is it that going into an interview you sometimes think:
“What if they don’t like me?”
“What if I don’t get the job?”
“What if there is someone better than me?”
The WHAT IF’S are eating away at your happiness, trust me.. I have learned. When you doubt yourself you are only giving everyone else a reason to doubt you. The first person you have to prove wrong is yourself. You are wrong when you think you will bomb the interview, you are wrong when you tell yourself that you didn’t study good enough for that exam and you are definitely wrong when you tell yourself that you are not good enough. I decided to break down the small steps you can take in order to start proving yourself(doubt) wrong.
Step 1 – SET A GOAL
For this particular exercise, you want to set a pretty big goal. That does not mean to land a job as a CEO within a month when you are currently an administrative assistant, it must be attainable. For instance, if you are trying to get back and shape set a goal to get in the gym and workout 4 days a week. WRITE IT DOWN on paper and tell yourself every single day that you are going to make that goal.
Step 2 – TELL SOMEONE
This is an interesting step and I think its super important. You need to tell someone about your goal. Whether it be your husband/wife, best friend or your coworker. You need someone else to keep you accountable. That way not only will you prove your self(doubt) wrong, you can also prove other people wrong when they doubt your ability to attain the goals. For example, I would tell my husband about my fitness goal so that when Wednesday rolls around and I REALLY want to sit and drink wine on the couch, he will remind me what my goals are. (Or he will sit on the couch and drink wine with me…. Let’s hope for that first option)
Step 3 – CRUSH IT
Well obviously?! Get to the gym every day you promised yourself you would. This is a small life goal and you should be crushing it. Think about what made you set this goal in the first place: are you trying to be super fit? Just trying to get healthier? Wanting to look good in that bikini? Think about it every day and make sure you meet that goal. Remember, we set a realistic goal so it will be easy to attain. You have to set small goals at first so that you can get a few small victories under your belt. That way, when it comes time to reaching a BIG goal (did somebody say CEO?) you will have the confidence you need to get there.
After proving to yourself that you CAN do that one thing that you told yourself you CANNOT do because you don’t have enough time, money, patience, etc. now you need to do it all over again. Do it all over again with something bigger. The more goals you crush the more that the self doubt in your head is going to diminish.
This post was written by Ashley Gibbons. Ashley is a motivated millennial set out to spread new & positive ways of thinking to today’s generations. You can follow her at: